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I pressed play on my mix. The first song, “Genesis” by Justice, was, I’d learn later, a bit aggressive out of the gate. But like every starting line I’d toed since high school, I couldn’t shake the mentality. I wasn’t there to participate. I wasn’t there to finish. I was there to win. Except this time, I knew I couldn’t.
I tightened the laces on my oversized Hoka Bondis, shook out my legs, and then—mindlessly, automatically—followed the same prerace ritual I’d had since I was 14: hopping high in place like a frog, heels hitting my butt. I looked more like a drunk flamingo, though; my right leg was the only one strong enough to jump, with my left leg landing awkwardly in its hard plastic brace.
Four years earlier, at age 36, I was diagnosed with multiple sclerosis—a chronic, degenerative disease of the central nervous system affecting the brain, spine, and optic nerve. For several weeks prior to my diagnosis, I’d been experiencing numbness and tingling along my left leg, which I thought was because of all the horrific shots—sometimes three a day—that I’d been getting as part of my in vitro fertilization (IVF) process while desperately trying to have a second child. I figured we’d hit a nerve. No big deal.
But then I started limping. Even still, I brushed it off. Rejina Pyo Imogen 25mm boots Braun, I reasoned, likely brought on by the weight gain from IVF. My friends affectionately nicknamed me Peg Leg. We were making jokes because we were sure it was nothing—something orthopedic, something ordinary.
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After six weeks of limping, I finally made an appointment with a sports medicine doctor. The morning of the appointment, I went for a run. I wanted to know how much this limp was affecting my ability to run. I didn’t know, because I hadn’t run in months. I’d been so consumed with IVF that I’d sort of given up on the rest of life.
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“I’m sure it’s a slipped disc,” I found myself repeating.
“Oh, wait, and my left hand is super weak,” I said to the doctor. “I can barely open a tube of mascara.”
With that, they started speaking in code, quietly, and to each other. I heard one say: “…upper neurological…”
That night I was squeezed into the schedule for an MRI at the University of Chicago, and by lunchtime the next day, a neurologist called with the news: My brain and spine had numerous lesions, which the doctor said indicated multiple sclerosis.
From there I remember the hotness of the tears, and the volume, spilling out of my eyes like a faucet. I remember my husband suggesting I take a shower—some time by myself, with no one watching, to fall apart. I remember standing in that shower repeating, “This is not real. This is not happening.” I remember thinking of wheelchairs, of never running again, of created for QVC and the "FFANY Shoes on Sale" fundraiser?
A few days later, my friend Heather and I were at lunch, talking about everything except what we were there to talk about. Finally, she asked, “Will you be able to run again?”
My head answered before my mouth could. It shook no.
“The neurologist said it’s not likely,” I clarified.
At a meeting a few days earlier, the doctor had explained that I was experiencing something called foot drop, a common symptom of MS that makes it difficult to lift the front part of the foot, causing it to sometimes get caught on the floor when you walk or run. My brain would tell my foot to fire, but because of the lesions, the message wasn’t getting through.
“Honestly, I’ll take walking at this point,” I said. Who was I to worry about running? But she knew I didn’t mean it. She knew how much running mattered to me. It had been a part of my identity since before I wore deodorant. Since I beat all the boys in the mile in fifth grade. Since I was All New England in high school and a member of the cross-country team at the University of Colorado that won the national championship my freshman year. (So what that I didn’t actually run in that race, or hardly any races, really. I was on the team, people. Mark Wetmore was my coach and Kara Goucher was my captain.) Running, for me, was like brushing my teeth. It wasn’t a matter of if I was going to do it that day, just a matter of when.
Since high school, conversations often went like this: “That’s Lilibet; she’s a runner. She probably ran, like, six miles today. Lilibet, how many miles did you run today?”
“Eight.”
Now, suddenly, a critical part of my existence was ripped from me, with a phrase from a Magic 8 Ball. Outlook not so good.
A month after that initial MRI, treatment began. It started with a five-hour infusion of Ocrevus, the disease-modifying therapy that I will take twice a year as long as it continues to work for me. A month later, I went for five consecutive days of one-hour intravenous steroid sessions. The limp subsided. The neurologist told me this was very good news. I wanted to say, No shit, but I was so elated I bit my tongue. Treatments for MS have come a long way, he explained with palpable enthusiasm.
Incredibly, two months after my diagnosis, I ran my first mile, on a treadmill at physical therapy. It was clunky and limpy and loud. I should have been thrilled, and yet it was completely depressing. The worst part was everyone congratulating me on a mile that took over 11 minutes to complete.
But I slogged on—with physical therapy, mental therapy, diet modifications, acupuncture, MRIs and infusions, and a whole lot of crying alone in my car. And seven months post-diagnosis, I ran my first race.
It was a 5K through my Chicago neighborhood, and the finish line was in front of our house. My husband and son watched from our stoop, holding a poster that said GO MOMMY GO. Before the race, some friends surprised me with a sign that read, You Are Running Better Than the Government. I was able to finish with no issues, even beating several of my non-disabled friends. I wasn’t running fast, but I was running fine—an 8:23 pace that I would have lamented as a less-than-stellar performance before MS, but a near miraculous one, post-MS. The fear that buried me like a baratas blanket was lifting, and suddenly I was filled with something that resembled hope, or maybe even optimism.
After the race, my son asked, “Did you win, Mommy?” It was a pretty stupid question because he had seen nearly a hundred people finish before me, but I cut him some slack because he was 3. I scooped him into my arms. “No, buddy, I didn’t win,” I said, and kissed his fat cheek. Even though, in many ways, it felt like I did.
A year after that, I raced a 10K at an even faster clip. Through the end of mile five, I felt strong, with some miles even dipping into the low seven minutes. My body moved along in the pack just like the rest of the regular runners, striding steadily down Michigan Avenue, under Randolph Street, along the Lakefront Trail. I was, in those miles, my old self, and it reminded me of all the glorious runs before it: the sun rising above the foothills in Boulder, the scratchy sounds of strong foot strikes on dirt roads, all of us—Kara Goucher, Footlocker National Champions, future Olympians—and me, zapatillas de running Nike talla 37 marrones.
During the final mile of the 10K, my left foot started to feel heavy. It began to drop, then drag. My overworked nervous system couldn’t keep up. But I was determined to finish. So I hobbled. I hopped. Then my left leg buckled, and I fell.
Runners all around me accelerated toward the finish, focused on passing as many people as they could before the chute. I used to love that—showboating a bit at the end of a race.
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“Did you sprain an ankle?”
“No,” I said. “I have MS,” and burst into tears.
“Wow!” she said. “Good for you!”
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“Let me help you,” she said, ducking her head under my armpit.
“Are you sure?” I said, motioning toward the finish. “You need to finish the race.”
“So do you,” she replied.
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As we neared the finish, I kept repeating, “Thank you so much.” I was crying again, overcome with gratitude.
After the race, I hugged my husband and son, and told them about the amazing five miles, and the fall.
“What happened after you fell!?” my son asked.
“Well, I got up and finished the race,” I said.
A few nights later, my son would say, “Daddy is stronger, but Mommy is tougher.”
I wish I could tell you that I continued to get stronger, that the 10K turned into a marathon, but I cannot. I now know what my neurologist meant when he said, “MS has a mind of its own.” While in my day-to-day life, I feel pretty good—often great, even—my running has severely declined, which is heartbreaking. I can now only run three-quarters of a mile before having to walk.
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“Emotional,” I said.
“Emotional?” he asked.
(Non-runners, I thought.)
“Because it’s limpy and I can’t really do it anymore,” I snapped.
No one innately got this, which made me angry. But it’s difficult to explain missing something like running—missing something hard, missing something that hurts.
Yet I still do this—three-quarter-mile run, a quarter-mile walk—until I cobble together three miles, almost daily. I do this because I have to. Running has been my salvation over the years, a way to commune with myself and the outdoors. It’s my time to reset, untangle my thoughts, shake out both body and mind. I cannot count the number of times I have headed out for a run carrying the weight of something very heavy and returned home without it.
How could I have known that one day I’d long for that 11-minute mile—“so clunky and limpy and loud.” That one day, the 11-minute part wouldn’t matter, nor the gracelessness with which I did it. That the only thing that would matter was that one word: completed. That six years out, I would no longer be able to complete a mile.
In the summer of 2022, a group of friends headed to Montana to run the Missoula Marathon on the anniversary of the death of our dear friend Teddy, who’d been killed in a car accident the year before. Teddy had been an effortless runner—he once raced a 10K in Crocs—but more than anything, he was a gentleman. He looked intensely in your eyes and wanted to know you. He left you with a glow.
In honor of our friend’s memory, everyone enthusiastically signed up for the full marathon—everyone except me. I would have to do the 5K. As friends texted about their training (many of whom had never run more than a couple of miles in their life) it was impossible not to feel envious. I took on the role of coach, doling out training tips and race-day advice, but still, it bummed me out. Running was my Santoni fur-trimmed snow boots…my jam. And yet, I’d have to watch from the sidelines. My husband had signed up for the half marathon, and on weekend mornings, I would wave from our porch in pajamas as he headed out for a 14-mile run. “Have fun!” I’d yell, and he’d look at me like I was crazy. “I don’t think you’re getting it,” he finally said. “I detest Li-Ning LiNing Counterflow GouXu Grey Blue Red Skate Shoes AGCQ309-2.”
On race day, before the 5K began, tears for Teddy filled my eyes. I felt his unbridled enthusiasm for life, and for running, all around me. Teddy was with me, and he was ready to go. When the starting gun sounded, it was like I forgot—forgot there was a foot-drop brace on my leg, forgot I had MS.
My first mile was so fast my friends thought the tracker was broken. But by mile two, I was destroyed. I stumbled through at a very slow jog. By the final mile, I was walking—but barely. I was genuinely worried I would not finish. As I hobbled toward the finish line, I saw my son, and I will never forget the look on his face.
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I was determined to show him I was.
So I ran. It wasn’t pretty, but for 25 meters I ran, until I crossed the finish line. It was clunky and limpy and loud, though you wouldn’t have heard me because the cheers from the crowd were louder.
This wasn’t the storybook ending I’d written in my head. I didn’t run a marathon, or even a whole 5K. But I crossed the finish line running. Primeros Pasos Boots Arb02.
I continue to celebrate these victories, no matter how small, because they are not small to me. A prominent member of the MS community is best known for saying, “Focus on what you can do.” It’s such a simple statement that I dismissed it the first time I read it. But it lingered. Focus on what I can do. Maybe I can’t run like I once could. Maybe someday I won’t be able to run at all. But I can still take care of my son. I can still drive. I can still write and travel and dance and go out to dinners and laugh so hard it hurts. I waste a lot of time worrying about what might happen. But then I remind myself, we all have uncertain health futures, every one of us. We are fragile beings. Our bodies sometimes fail. We all live here together in the unknown.
I am not the same runner I was 20 years ago, or even yesterday. None of us are. We are never the same person we were yesterday. And isn’t that the point? It took me a long time to mourn the loss of my former self—the Runner, the one who didn’t have MS—because I was mourning someone who is still alive, still here, but forever changed. But in that grief, there was growth. It’s a concept runners know well. Long-distance runners, in particular, go through great suffering to become the best that they can be—no pain, no gain.
My suffering is no longer measured in miles. My struggle is MS, and after years of saying F you, MS, Veja Kids Sneakers mit Logo Nude: Hogan panelled low-top sneakers Grau? Because it’s not going anywhere. I cannot “overcome” MS. There are no MS “survivors.” I cannot run away from it. So I choose, instead, to run through it. And every day that I can pop in my earbuds and head out the door, I will not cry because I had to limp along for the last few blocks. Instead, I’ll be grateful that I can still head out the door and try.
During my decades of daily running, I used to pass older runners ambling along, their stride hardly more than a shuffle. I’d see them on the soft dirt paths in Lincoln Park in Chicago or in New York’s Central Park. They were barely jogging, but I could tell they were once real runners. They had that look about them—the unstylishly sturdy running shoes, the shorts with the built-in underwear, the sinewy arms, lean legs, carved calves.
As I would zip past them—so quick and cocky and clueless—I would often wonder: What’s the point? Why not just walk? Now, I know the point. They don’t want to walk. They need to run.
Carvela Pink Kross 2 Shoes Box Girl: My Part-Time Job as an Art Installation and a forthcoming collection of essays, and is the founder of The Lilibet Snellings Kyte Foundation, which raises money and awareness for multiple sclerosis, with an emphasis on supporting runners with MS. She lives in Richmond, Virginia, with her husband and son.
